It’s funny because I recently have experienced my first piece of real criticism. I never thought I’d be told that I’m “too optimistic, or “too positive.” I didn’t even know that was possible! It felt like someone was criticizing my soul, my being.
So I decided to let you in on the real story of why I try to be “too positive.”
Having a positive outlook is my way of coping with the sadness and struggle that I often feel inside of me. Being positive helps me fight through my battles. I’m positive because I face a lot of personal and emotional struggles on a daily basis. I wish I could say I stay persistently happy, but I can’t. The thing is that I had to chose to stop sitting around and feeling sorry for myself, or else I would just be in this sad and lonely place of no improvement. I had to decide to change my mindset and try my best to rise against the adverse times. In fact, starting this blog was an outlet for me. It was a way that I could keep myself positive and no longer fall down a dark path. My posts were primarily to remind myself to be positive, and secondarily to help inspire others who are also struggling with loving themselves.
I’m optimistic because life is too short. I’ve had first hand experiences with children who are diagnosed with life threatening illnesses. Those children’s families are faced with adversities that you and I will never know, but those children are some of the happiest children I’ve ever met. Whenever I’m down I think about how I’m fortunate to be in the spot that I am, and that other people are going through harder experiences. I once met a women who was a single mom of three, worked two jobs, and lived pay cheque to pay cheque, but that woman told me about her life with a smile across her face. “My children are fed, they have clothes on their back, and they love me.” However, the one thing that all those people have in common is the fundamental aspect of faith.
Positivity is something I have to remind myself to have. I even have to go back and read my own posts just because I’m feeling unmotivated. Despite popular belief, I’m not 100% confident in myself – in fact, I’m still tying to figure out who I am. I go through emotional lows just like everyone else. So don’t for a second think that you’re alone in this world, and struggling by yourself. This goes along with the old saying “you can’t judge a book by it’s cover,” Every one has gone through, and is going through some sort of emotional experience. So before you look at a person and judge them, make sure you know their entire story, and the journey that got them to where they are to that day.
I don’t care if people are 100% all the time, I just want people to understand that it’s better to have a positive outlook on a crappy situation because if you dwell on the negative then nothing about that situation will change. A wise and feisty women whom I call Mama P once said, “you have 10 minutes to be upset, and then you have to move on.” It’s true. That’s what I believe in and that’s what I try to live.
We all struggle, everybody struggles with something. But it’s how we chose to deal with the stress in our life that will make an impact on our future.
So I’d rather be known for being “too positive” than for not being able to face adversity and look it in the eye. I’d rather be optimistic about my life than to sit around and let time pass me by.
Positive vibes, positive mind, positive life.
Being positive is one step closer to living your life to the fullest every day.